My Mom called me at work the other day. She starts by telling me that she talked to my kid's mom (my ex-wife) and that my daughter is in trouble and going to court that day. It seems that she withdrew money from her mother's bank account, about $3000, and has been doing drugs.
It has been hard for me to do any effective parenting since 1995. That year the divorce was final and as the ex didn't get what she wanted (sole custody) she up and moved as far from Texas as she could get, Oregon. Since then it has been tough to even keep in touch with my kids.
Even though my mind was still trying to process what my Mother just told me (remember?) she says, "Oh they did a test and the results came back that I have liver cancer." My brain locks up. The office is humming with activity and suddenly seems very loud or is that pounding noise actually my heart? I'm stunned. Two important people in my life are trouble. What can I do to help them? I am the one everyone comes to for answers but I have non for myself.
My Daughter had her hearing and was released without bond but with conditions she almost immediately broke. She has dropped out of sight and is not responding to our pleas that she contact us.
My Mother faces further tests to determine the extent of her disease.
I feel helpless.
